Wednesday, December 15, 2010

2010 COLLAGE OF MY THOUGHTS

2010 Collage of My Thoughts 

By Robbyn R. Wallace 

Once anger is calm and forgiveness is given, there is still the fact that actions and words are not forgotten. This doesn't mean that there has to be hard feelings, resentment or revenge, but situations and relationships are forever changed. This is where acceptance of change takes place, even with acceptance love never dies it only changes!

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There is a conflict within me, one of resistance and constant struggles. I am sad yet happy. Angry yet forgiving. Empty yet fulfilled. Heartless yet full of compassion. Hopeless yet full of hope. Lost yet found by God. Honest yet secretly hiding. Bold yet shy. Lonely yet surrounded by the world and God. Needing yet giving. Unloved yet loved. The internalized conflicts are never ending. Finding compromise, understanding, accepting and allowing oneself to feel what is good and release what isn't. This is where one finds inner peace. It is a never ending jouney. 

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What is this feeling? This feeling pulling at my soul, deep within and unexplained! Craving for so much more than life has to offer! The other side is taunting as it exists in perfect harmony. Life must be fulfilled and lessons learned, then maybe one day I will exist within that perfect harmony... Hopefully infinitely... so outside of space and time for all eternity!! 

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What happens when some humans innate nature changes and becomes genetically different from others? Does this mean that normal classification should also change? How would you feel if so called normal human nature became the minority? And you became the outcast instead of the other way around! Hmmmm, something to ponder on! 

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If I could escape but only for a day. I would run away, oh so very far away. To a world full of nothing but peace and understanding. A place where miracles happen and dreams do come true. It would be so simple to understand others and accept them. No judging AT ALL. Just a place of true peace, happiness, love and compassion, ending in peace and serenity. This is where I would want to be!!  

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No thank you, I rather enjoy living in MY OWN world!! Hey, but you are welcome to join me there!!!!!!!  

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The love of my life is a little girl named Heavannah, the day she was born I knew I had finally found the unconditional love I had always searched for! Mommy loves you T.I.F.E always and forever!! 

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The decisions you make in life determine the outcome... Consequences are inevitable... It's only regrettable if no lessons are learned! It's difficult sometimes to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but it's there to find!
  
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"If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves." Thomas A. Edison

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I hope to astound myself as often as possible! Nothing is out of reach, just depends how far you are willing to stretch your potential! I pray everyday that God gives me the strength and courage to strive for a better tomorrow!

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Perfection! What is it? It can be summed up into one word: JESUS! We are imperfect as human beings, but should never give up striving to be perfect! WWJD (What Would Jesus Do)! If a person asks himself or herself this question each time they were faced with a decision, it could inspire better choices! We are all unique, and should embrace that uniqueness. It is said that we are all born with a gift, through God we can find it and nurture it! Sometimes God uses the most unlikely candidate, so be open to others!

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Honestly, I think my thoughts and writing is my brains way of processing why I sometimes make bad decisions. Especially when I know better and have the burning desire to make good decisions! However, if I didn't think the way I do I honestly don't think I would have survived some of the consequences of the bad choices I made throughout my life! I am like a fine wine though; I just keep getting better with time!! Lol! AKA... We all are guilty of bad decisions at one point or another in our life! It's how we handled the after math that helps define us!!

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Children are the future and the beginning of the human experience cycle, and elderly are the past and the end of the human experience cycle. One can learn much of the human condition from how it begins with our children, and how it ends with our elderly! When we are born some believe we start with a clean slate, but is that slate really as clean as we make think when we are wired with so many potential problems that can be activated through certain experiences? It is no longer Nature versus Nurture, but is Nature AND Nurture working together to create each human experience! It has been said that the first 5 years of life are the most fundamental in the development of a person's personality. However, experiences at any stage of life can alter anyone's experience! As children we have little or no control, through life we have the ability to gain control, and in our elderly years we tend to once again have little or no control! Ask yourself; "how do I want to look back and remember my life?” "Did I take control, and ultimately responsibility for my choices?” and "What knowledge and wisdom did I gain in my unique human experience?" remember, through good and bad, we are ultimately in control of how we perceive and live our life! We can choose our own level of happiness, even through life's toughest challenges! God bless!

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Parenting Tip... Find a discipline method that works with your child(ren), and that you are comfortable with, AND be consistent!! Remember also that discipline method and styles evolve as your child(ren) age(s)!

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Parenting Tip... Teaching children is part of your job as a parent, and the most important lesson taught is how to make, not just choices, but good choices! The lesson of decision making can be learned in two ways, by words and by actions! Of course, a parent should teach their child(ren) values and morals, and right from wrong, but this is not always enough! Remember the old saying, actions speaker louder than words! You, as the parent, are usually the biggest role model in your childs(rens) life. Ultimately, your decision making process has a huge influence in the development of your childs(rens) decision making process. It is very important to actively take responsibility for your choices, and to use them as a teaching tool! Even when a bad choice is made, you can use it wisely to teach your child consequences! The lesson here is to actively teach your child(ren) about every aspect of the decision making process so that they are truly equipped with the tools they need to make conscious decisions, and understand that consequences, good or bad, are an extension of that process!

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My experience and perception, after learning and applying my knowledge, is that the development of a person's decision making process is one, if not the most, important tool! Also, learning how to cope with the consequences of each decision, whether good or bad, right or wrong!

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Ok, I know most are probably tired of me rambling, but I have another thought I want to add! When teaching a child about decisions/choices, it is equally important to teach them about the importance of honesty! They need to understand that it is better to endure the true consequences of their choice/decision rather than to lie and avoid the consequence, which may lead to worse consequences later down the road. This is probably the trickiest to teach though! Personally one way I handle this is stressing it during the discipline process (just remember it is always best to start teaching this at a very young age when it can be consistently reinforced throughout their childhood), but it is never to late. I explain what decision was made and why it is important to be honest about the decision, why they chose that decision, and whether it was the best choice that could have been made. Then I explain the consequences of the choices made and the importance of consequences. I always express that if a person decides to be dishonest about their choice, then when and if the truth came out the consequences would be much worse and could hurt other people! And if the truth is never known, then they will have to live with a lie causing them to become a person that even they will not respect! Of course this line of thought works best with younger children. Once they get older, they feel like you are lecturing them! I usually try to point out my own decisions along the way, good and bad, and the consequences. I use them as a tool to teach. They must know that we are all capable of making bad or wrong choices and good or right choices, but we can chose to accept the consequences, learn and grow from them, and try to make better choices/decisions in the future. I have made many bad, as well as good, decisions/choices in my life, and have learned that they were all lessons learned and were stepping stones to become who I am today. Children need to understand that they face the same dilemma as all before them, but they can choose a better and easier path! Anyway, God knows I can go on and on, soooo I will try to end on that note! I hope that I explained it okay though!

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My life is nothing more than self-discovery! God, I ask you to guide me through this life and grant me a higher spiritual awareness along the way! My life is a journey to you, God!!

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I believe reading the bible should be a soulful and enlightening experience! It is sad to see how misused the word of God is! I cannot fathom how some people can use the word of God as a tool of justification in judging and condemning! Those who use the bible to justify judging and condemning have forgotten who our savior, Jesus Christ, is and that he was made of love and exhibited love to all living things, without judging and condemning! Love your neighbor as thy self, this was not a conditional statement!! The End!

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P.S. Those that are guilty of this need to remember that judging is a sin, and the bible teaches of the equality of sins! I am sure there are many that can find scriptures on the equality of sins. Sooo, fill free to weigh in on the subject or not! I am not asking for anyone to agree, do your homework and agree or disagree. I am an individual thinker and I do not need validation! This is ONLY my perspective that derives from my own studies!! God bless!!!!

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Intentions are the root of all things, because they ultimately determine a person's core. So, what are your true intentions? A person can be enlightened when they become aware of what their true motivators in life are!

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Sometimes life takes a direction that is difficult to follow, but if you see it through you may find a desirable outcome!

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Collectively, choices you make define you, not just one bad one! Sometimes it takes one bad decision to achieve growth, which is necessary to the soul and life in general!

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Soooooo tired of over thinking EVERYTHING!! Analyze... Analyze... Analyze... When is it ever just plain ole simple? Why can't people, actions, words, thoughts, etc., just be as they appear and not what the intent behind them is? Humans, by far, are the most complicated creatures! If you really think about this, you will understand that a person's actions are ultimately intended, good or bad. However, it is sometimes very difficult to know what a person's true intentions are! Even when a person does something, good or bad, were there intentions the same as the perceived action or words? One can go on and on contemplating this dilemma, and never really know! I believe this is one good reason one should not be judgmental, only God knows the whole truth!! Okay, a book suggestion: "Power of Intentions"! GREAT book! A must read for self-discovery! Unfortunately my life is, I guess, never ending work, because I have such a need and desire to understand the human condition and human behavior! However, realistically I will probably never figure it out, but I shall never stop trying!

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"Do not fear mistakes. There are none." Miles Davis.

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Mistakes do not exist if you understand that without them one may never learn the valuable lessons that are inspired by them! Or you can just perceive a mistake to be the downfall of all mankind! It comes down to what you decide to perceive!

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Embrace your enemies with LOVE, because love conquers ALL!!

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I know, at times, I am critical of others if they do not do certain things the way I think they should, then get aggravated and sometimes ridicule them, at least in my mind! I know I don't want others to do that to me, so I should be as considerate as I want them to be of me! We are all individuals and think as such, and react to, cope with and feel things differently. Hmmm, guess I need to work on that!!

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Everyone deserves equality! It is time for people to put aside prejudice and discrimination!! Hopefully people will open up their hearts and minds, and realize that we are ALL children of God!

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Throughout history prejudice and discrimination has consumed the hearts of many good people! When has prejudice or discrimination ever served a higher purpose or brought anyone to God? NEVER! The journey to God is NOT through any negative thought or action to self or another, but through the love and compassion that ties us all to God! You cannot live for God with hatred in your heart!!

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Plant seeds, some seeds make take longer to develop or grow and some may never grow... But all we can do is plant the seeds and let God do the rest!

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I do not aim to change peoples mind, just broaden it!! 

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*LAUGH* *LOVE* *LIVE* - Words to live by!! I hope to laugh as often as possible, which brings great moments of happiness. I hope to love with all my heart with no expectations. I hope to live my life to the fullest with no regrets. If I can manage these 3 simple things, I believe that it will bring much happiness to fruition!!

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It is amazing when discoveries are made that clearly reveal an understanding of the past journey of emotions that didn't always lead to a happy ending!! Things that were never understood, that gave way to insecurities and brought so much anger and blame. When clarity sets in due to these discoveries, you are finally able to understand that the blame never necessarily laid upon the shoulders others nor you, but circumstances beyond your reach controlled so much, without the proper attention. Great thing about the abilities of those who search for a greater understanding of the world and people around them is that sooner or later it explaines and brings about understanding and acceptance! It allows us to change the present, learning from the past, and help into the future. It saves so much heartache and unnecessary pain and strife! Human behavior is an astounding mechanism. One that we strive to understand but may never fully. When it comes down to it ALL humans have the innate need to be accepted by others, and when denied that acceptance it causes emotions of pain and hurt to turn to never ending anger. Moral of this is that not all people are meant to completely understand human behavior but we can all do our part and accept others and allow them to feel loved as a person inspite of their flaws, beauty or defects!!